3 Types of People Every Man with a Vision Should Have (How to Build Your Team)
A vision may be caught by one man, but for the vision to be actualized there has to be a team. That’s the reason why I don’t believe in the ‘self-made man’ philosophy. No one man can materialize a dream all by himself.
Yes, you may have pioneered the vision, and you may have started it alone; but if you want to build upon that dream and make it a reality, you need a team. Facebook, Apples inc, Microsoft Corporation, Disney land, and the lots of them were built by a team of like-minded people.
Now this ‘team of like-minded people’ that every man running with a vision needs is what I want to talk to you about today. If you are a man who wants to succeed, it is very important that you relate with these people. Remember, no man is an island, and life was designed in such a way that we need each other to succeed.
- The confidant: confidants are those people who are with you ‘for’ you. Their love for you is unconditional, they are with you in your good times and bad times. They are your ‘friends’ in the midst of friends; you are yourself when you are around them, they know your strengths and weakness and they love you all the same. Confidants are very few in life, but if you are lucky enough to have 2 or 3 confidants, you are really blessed!
No matter how great a man is, he needs a family of friends who really know him to fall back to from time to time. You need people you can communicate your fears to and not be afraid that they will use it against you. Yes, you need a confidant.
- Constituent: these people are not with you ‘for’ you; rather they are with you for what you stand for. As long as you are for what they stand for, they will remain with you. They are with you because you share a common vision or purpose; and so you need them to fulfill that dream. They are the ‘Aaron’ to your ‘Mosses’
We must be careful though not to confuse constituents as confidants. Remember that they are with you for what you stand for- and the moment you lose sight of that vision, they will desert you and team up with someone else who still has his eyes on the vision!
- Comrades: comrades are not with you ‘for’ you, nor are they for what you stand for. They are with you for what you stand against. They are with you because you share a common enemy, and so they will team up with you with the sole purpose of defeating a common enemy.
Comrades are not your friends; they will leave you the moment the common enemy is defeated.
Everybody needs a comrade at some point in life. Normally we see this kind of alliance between countries during war; countries will create alliance with other countries just to defeat a common enemy.
The confidant, the constituent and the comrades; these are the 3 types of people destiny will connect us with the moment you start working with a vision. However, we must be careful not to confuse each group with another.
Be careful with whom you share your dreams with. Don’t make the mistake of sharing your dreams with a constituent or a comrade because;
A constituent will steal your dream and use it for himself. A comrade on the other hand wont just care (they are not interested in you or your dreams). You may even get discouraged by their nonchalant attitude to your dream.
Now don’t get me wrong, this does not in any way mean that the comrades or constituents are not important or are evil. You need them!
You need someone who believes in you, loves you unconditionally, and is there for you at all times (confidant); but you also need someone who believes in your dreams, and is willing to work with you to make it a reality (constituent)
Don’t get upset when a constituent or comrade leave you; they are designed to leave at some point. They are the team you need for a moment; to complete a task or achieve a goal. They only team that is designed to stay with you forever is the confidant. So no matter how obsessed you are about your goal, create room for real friends; because once the comrades and constituents leave you, you will need a friend to fall back to.
I leave you the very words of Helen Keller herself: ‘alone we can do so little; together we can do so much’
Everybody needs a team!