4 Keys to Taking Control of Your Emotions

control of your emotions

Our emotions are always in constant motion; that’s why it is very risky to allow ourselves be ruled by them. It can lead us into making permanent decisions during temporary phases.

Murdering someone because you are angry is a permanent resolve to a temporary situation. Nobody stays angry forever.

Taking your life because you have been embarrassed or bullied is a permanent solution to a temporary phase.

Giving up on a relationship or dream because you have encountered a road block is a permanent decision to a temporary situation.

A lot of times we make permanent decisions in temporary situations and when the emotion eventually fades away, we are left with regrets. I cannot over emphasize the need to learn how to take charge of your emotions. The world is filled with bad people and good people. People will not always be nice to you or take your emotions into consideration before saying or doing something. People can be mean, insensitive and cruel. So how people treat you is most times beyond your control, but how you react to them is a choice you have to make.

Here are 4 awesome and very practical keys to taking control of your emotions. It has helped me immensely and still helps me till today.

Identify what you are really feeling: Every emotion has a name. Are you feeling…?

Anger. Fear (normal fear, fear of failure, and fear of criticism). Rejection. Hurt. Depression. Grief. Frustration. Anxiety or worry. Jealousy. Guilt. Loneliness. Inadequacy.

Find out the cause of that emotion: identify the reason you are feeling that way

  • Was it something you just heard?
  • Was it something you just saw?
  • Was it a memory you just remembered?
  • Was it something done to you in the past or just presently?

Take time and find out why you are feeling that way. Remember, you can’t fight a monster you are yet to acknowledge its existence.

Applying the CAL theory: there are 3 solutions to every problem

  1. Accept it   Change it                 3.  Leave it.

If you cannot accept it, change it. If you can’t change it, leave it. Friends, make a resolution to yourself not to live life feeling and acting like the victim. Trust me, I have been there and I have done that. You will only command pity which most of the times is not sincere. The bitter truth is this, people are pretty much preoccupied with their problems to be genuinely concerned about yours. Take charge of your life and your emotions.

Gratitude: true contentment comes from being grateful over the little thing of life. We get so caught up in counting our losses that we forget to count our gains. Every day you live to see, no matter how bad you think it went, is a miracle. Even just breathing in oxygen is a profound miracle. Learn to be more appreciative and grateful.

So here are some positive emotions I strongly encourage…

  1. Love   Thanksgiving/Gratitude               3.  Faith
  2. Flexibility 5.  Determination/Persistence            6.  Generosity

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Friends, you may not how helpful, uplifting and encouraging we find your comments. Yes, we consider quitting this sometimes, but most of your comments just encourage us. Even the best motivational speakers sometimes need motivation and encouragement. Nobody has it all figured out. We love you guys tremendously!


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