Beauty in diversity
One day in the course of a conversation with my sister, she asked me “Sandra, what will you say is your biggest life lesson?” Without a single second of thought, I gave her an immediate reply “That our beauty is found in our diversity”
From the early and tender age of 8, I started the journey of weight loss because I felt I will feel better if I was as slim as some of my friends. Some days, I tie a cloth round my stomach so tight that breathing becomes a problem…in my tender head, it will make me skinnier. By 14, I was already bulimic. I went to a boarding secondary school, and there was this classmate of mine that had sagging breasts. She always flaunted it with pride, so I felt if my pointed boobs sagged, I will be able to exude the same pride she had.
Really? I resulted to tying a wrapper painfully tight around my chest. It of course made me very uncomfortable and left scars that hurt whenever I sweated or bathed. No pain, no gain right? Not quite long, I met another girl with really big boobs and a walking step to die for. She like the first exuded a pride and confidence that I envied and really wished I had. So I embarked on a new journey. To be the girl with big boobs…
I am not a victim and i didn’t share these past experiences to sound pathetic or melodramatic. I am stronger, wiser and happier thanks to these struggles. These experiences birthed the reply I gave my sister. These were two different girls with distinct body features and each of them were very comfortable with the body they were blessed with. In each of them, I saw nothing short of great beauty. A beauty worth appreciating, so much that I craved it. Years later, after a long battle with depression and a low self-worth and emerging a conqueror, I now understand what those girls really had that I failed to see back then. They found their uniqueness and embraced it with pride and confidence. They discovered the great beauty in being unique. It wasn’t about the body, it was all about the mindset. I missed it then, so I chased after shadows.
Fat, skinny, short, tall, small boobs, big boobs….learn you and love you. Everybody is flawed in his own way. I believe strongly that in order to appreciate you, you need to learn you. So take the time to really learn you. Embrace your strengths and flaws. Tell yourself the sweetest words ever. Be your number one admirer. Praise those pointed nose and flawless skin. Who cares what perverted and ridiculing opinion others may have about you. Be your number one fan.
Learn you. Love you. Live you