Emotional tyrants 1: how to identify and rise above fear
I learnt that courage was not the absence of fear but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not fear afraid but he who conquers that fear – Nelson Mandela
The two emotional tyrants are fear and anger. Dr Tim La Haye calls them emotional culprit. These two culprits have a paralyzing effect on our emotions and if allowed to rue us inhibits us in every aspect. Underlying every other negative emotions that plaques us are these two. For instance, fear is the root of worry, anxiety, depression, inferiority and so on while anger is the root of hatred, Unforgiveness bitterness, malice and he likes of it. The best way to stop a growth is to attack it by the root. In this post, I will be talking extensively on fear and how to rise above it.
Fear is the paralyzing emotion that inhibits the normal feeling of joy, love, confidence and well-being. It is to your emotions what cancer is to your body. It not only limits us but limits our vision and foresight. I will list some practical ways to rise above fear.
- Understand fear and embrace it. We need to understand that fear is a normal human feeling that is not alien to any group of people. It is an emotion that is generally felt by everybody and like every emotion can be managed and controlled. However, there is normal fear and limiting fear. Normal fear comes with trying something new (driving for the first time!) or something traumatic (being almost hit by a car). This fear is temporary and short-lived. Limiting fear is destructive and inhibiting in nature. It lingers longer. This fear holds us back and prevents us from discovering and living purpose.
- Give name to that fear. Fear is an emotion that is manifested in other emotions
- Inferiority complex (fear of not seen as worthy)
- Worry and anxiety (fear of uncertainty)
- Doubt, cowardice and indecision (fear of failure, fear of trying something new)
- Suspicion and withdrawal (fear of trusting or letting people in)
- Shyness and timidity (fear of embarrassment or criticism)
Identify your fear and then proceed to facing it head on. Remember that everything you want is on the other side of your fear.
- Deliberating do something about it. The best way to conquer a fear is not to run from it or avoid it but to face it head on.
Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear but not absence of fear – Mark Twain
I have always been scared of failing and being mediocre. Instead of trying something and failing, I’d rather not try it at all. You can imagine how much that robbed me of. It left me stunted and retrogressive. So what if you fail? Get back on your feet, learn from it and keep trying. True failure is when we refuse to try again. Is there a new project you want to start? Are you scared that you are not good enough or gifted enough? Are you scared of trying and failing?Remember this, the greatest tragedy is not aiming too high and missing but aiming too low and hitting. Fear makes you a slave to mediocrity. Get up and face your fears.
You won’t know the great potentials you keep caged in by allowing fear predict your next action. Rise above mediocrity by facing your fears and conquering them. See you at the top!
Have you identified your fear? How did you rise above it? Please share your story and inspire a lot more people with.