Smart fight versus Stupid fight
Smart Fight versus Stupid Fight
Some days ago, a friend of mine shared with me an experience he had which shook him to the bone. Needless to say, that experience inspired me to write this article today. One night as he was walking a female friend home, a rouge from nowhere touched the girl inappropriately. My friend blinded by fury attacked the guy and a fight ensued. However, he was completely oblivious of the fact that some of the guy’s friends were lurking around. When they sighted what was happening, they joined in and it became a four against one fight. He escaped death by a hair’s breadth.
In his words, that experience taught him a lesson (one that he is sure not to forget in a hurry) that there are two kinds of fight – smart fight and stupid fight. He believed that he should have gauged his environment properly before lurching at the guy in anger.
So I guess that begs the question- What is smart fight and stupid fight?
Personally, I am not against fighting especially when it is to buttress a candid point. There is a distinction between meekness and weakness, humility and stupidity. They are not the same and more often than not we tend to cross that line. I believe that wisdom is the distinguishing factor between smart fight and stupid fight. Wisdom tells you when to attack and when to relent. Even when on attack, wisdom tells you when to stop. Wisdom tells you when a fight is to remain just verbal, when its inclined to being physical, when its likely to erupt into something very violent and what to do when things begin to get real ugly.
So many youths, especially the boys, because of pride and ego have met untimely demise due to their failure to understand when a fight is smart or just plain stupid. Some people, in order not to look like cowards, ignore the voice of reasoning and of course the end is usually nothing new. Which makes me wonder, which is more important? Being a ‘supposed’ coward and perhaps giving a few jobless fellows a story to fixate on for a while, something to make them feel relevant or dying with your bravado and becoming another ‘has been’?
Set your priorities right. There are higher heights for you to climb. Bigger dreams for you to fulfill. So be wise not to let pride and the need to show your prowess take your life before time or cause a damage you will spend a lifetime regretting.
Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore get wisdom: and in all thy getting get understanding (Prov 4:7)