The strengths you can only learn in your trials
Nobody loves pain. Nobody wants that feeling of helplessness and worthlessness that consumes them when they are facing difficulties. I bet we wish sometimes that life was all peace and joy, devoid of those pains, sorrows and frustrations we meet on daily basis. But that’s just fairytale, not life. Life is a mixture of pain, joy, laughter, sorrows, excitements, disappointment- all in perfect harmony… because if life was all flowers and honey, without a little vinegar and thorns, how then would we learn those strengths that only the ‘vinegars and thorns’ of life will teach us?… you still don’t believe that our trials can give us valuable lessons? Okay, I think it’s time to enlighten you on the strengths we can only learn in our weak moments!
Indeed, good things come to those that wait. Patience is one of the strongest virtue man must have. Patience unlocks doors that haste will close. Patience protects you from making mistakes that ‘haste’ will quickly jump into. It has been proven that patient people live healthier, longer and happier life than impatient people. I love the way my friend defines patience… according to her, patience is observing more than you react… powerful right? Okay, let look at the Merriam Webster dictionary definition of patience. Maybe then we will understand why this virtue can only be learnt in trials. “Patience is:
The ability to bear pain or trial calmly or without complaint
The ability to manifest forbearance under provocation or strain”
Wow…thank you Merriam Webster for this beautiful definition. This definition explains it all. For you to say you have patience there must be trials. You cannot say you are patient if there is no situation (trials, difficulties) to test your calmness.
We can never learn to be brave and patient, if there was only joy in the world- Helen Keller
There are so many strengths you can learn from people or even in books… you can learn to smile by looking at others smiling, or by even reading books that give you guidelines on how to smile (sounds weird? Yep, I know the feeling!), you can be taught respect; you can learn to have faith by reading books or listening to people teach on faith…but you can never learn patience from people, books or looking at others. Patience is learnt/ developed only in the face of trails. It is only when you have manifested forbearance in the face of adversity, that you can say with all certainty that you have patience…
Trials strengthen your faith in yourself, your belief and your dreams. I believe that the primary aim of trials is to test your faith; either in yourself, your dreams or your beliefs. If the trial you face has not pushed to the point where you question your faith in yourself or your belief – then it isn’t a trial… the only reason why people commit suicide in the face of trials is because they have lost faith in themselves. The only reason why people give up on their dreams when they encounter a little bump on the road is because they have lost the faith they had in that dreams. But the truth is- what doesn’t break you only make you stronger. Every trial you successfully overcome strengthens your resolution in yourself and in your beliefs.
In this you greatly rejoice, though for a little while you may have had to suffer grief in all kinds of trials. These have come so that your faith-far greater than gold, which perishes even though refined by fire-may be proved genuine and may result in praise, glory and honor when Jesus Christ is revealed.-1 peter 1:6-7.
It is easy to say ‘I love myself’ when all is sweet and rosy, and to believe in one’s dreams when the conditions are right. It is so easy to say ‘I love God’ when life is sweet….but when the table is turned over, and the chips are down …only then can true faith be seen and appreciated.
“consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance, and perseverance must finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything- James 1:2-3
There is a level of maturity and wisdom you attained when you have faced trials and successful overcome. The truth is most times, we need a ‘hard kick from life’ to make us value those little things we take for granted.
Faith, patience, and perseverance are trademarks to every success story. They are the foundation blocks on which every success story is built on. And the amazing thing is that these virtues are developed only in the face of trials!
It’s all up to you. Your mindset in the face of trials determines your fate when you come out of it. You can chose to give up and come out broken, shattered and alone…or you can chose to persevere and come out stronger, bolder and a success! It’s all in the mind….
I hope you chose to persevere in that wilderness you are in….because believe me, your Canaan land flowing with milk and honey awaits you!