It Takes Two To Tango!
Okay guys, I heard this 90’s song playing from my neighbor’s radio this morning. Although I can’t quite make out all the lyrics of the song, this part got me interested.
‘It takes two to make a thing go right; it takes two to make it outta sight…’
The lyrics really got to me because it was completely true. My grandmother would always say ‘it takes two to build a home, just like it takes two to destroy it…. No one person can build and sustain a relationship because healthy relationships are results of team work.
Recently, I found myself developing an interest in the tango dance. For some of you that don’t know what a tango is, it is a partner dance that originated in the 1880’s. It is often described as a passionate dance because of the close connection the partners have with each other, and the character of the music.
After watching some you-tube videos of this dance online, I understood why people say ‘it takes two to tango’
In life, it takes two to tango
In our relationships- it takes two to tango
Healthy and long lasting relationship is the result of two people willing to work on themselves and work together. You can’t task one person with sustaining a relationship- it just can’t work. I have noticed something among fighting couples; they are always quick to point out the many flaws they feel their partner have, while avoiding to point out theirs.
Be the change you want to see; that change you talk about so much, you have to be it first.
If you have ever watched a tango, you will agree with me that the beauty of the dance is in the harmony and understanding between the partners. In tango, there is the ‘leader’ and the ‘follower’. Through the embrace, the leaders offers an invitation to the follower on where and how to step and the follower follows.
Both the leader and the follower work in harmony and with an understanding that the need each other to pull off the dance. We have to have that same mindset when it comes to our relationships. It has to be a shared responsibility.
We have to understand that we both need to make some changes and work on ourselves first…only then can relationships move in the fluidity and beauty of a tango!