Hey friend, when last did you visit yourself?!-the need for solitude
I woke up yesterday morning feeling a little unease. Deep down I felt something was missing. I tried taking my mind back to know if there was something I needed to do that I haven’t done; but I couldn’t think of anything….
Reluctantly, I dragged myself out of the bed to my bathroom to prepare for the day (it’s been a very busy week for me and I had another busy day ahead)…as I stared at my reflection in the mirror, I felt like the ‘me’ in the mirror was looking at me with a silent question….the same question I want to ask you…
‘When last did you visit yourself???’
Now more than ever, in this busy and activity-infested world, the only thing that stands between us and our peace, joy, concentration and creativity is our lack of solitude… we have become so busy that we find it hard to take some time apart from activities and just ‘visit’ ourselves. Solitude gives us that opportunity we need to take a step back and appreciate life.
The world we live in today lack solitude; technology, social media and the modern world ‘delicacies’, as good as they are have in way taken away our quiet time. We now spend more time on our phone chatting and pinging than we spend alone thinking and discovering….
Solitude is important for creativity. The best of life’s creative solutions are birthed in our place of solitude and reflection. Researches on creative and talented teenagers suggest that most talented youngsters are those who treasure their solitude.
Our moments of quiet and reflections are also the times when we best discover our strengths and uniqueness. It is so easy to lose our identity being busy; that’s why we must learn to take some time apart to rediscover and fall in love with ourselves all over again. In our time of reflection, we are able to answer the major life questions without distractions: Who am I? What makes me unique? Where am I going? Am I comfortable with my current state??
In our quiet times, our purpose and vision become clearer and we are able to make strategic plans on how to actualize.
Do you know why most miserable people are busy people? It’s simple, they have lost sight of themselves and what really matters while being ‘busy’…when I got to understand this, my response to rude secretaries and sales men and women I meet in the bank, mall or eateries changed. Instead of reacting in anger, I feel sorry fro them because they are only showing the signs of a restless spirit.
I think our biggest mistake is the way we view solitude. Solitude is not loneliness. Loneliness is destructive; solitude is constructive
Loneliness focuses on your flaws; solitude focuses on your strengths and self discovery…
Everybody needs a quiet moment of reflection; I can tell you that the antidote to depression is solitude. A depressed heart is restlessness and weary, but a reflective heart is at peace and joyful… depression strives best in a busy world, where the activities, criticism and expectations can make you restless. You must learn to take some time apart to learn, appreciate, discover and love yourself all over again…
I leave you with the words of Mabel Bryson: without reflection, we go blindly on our way, creating more unintended consequences and failing to achieve anything useful….
Have a nice day friends!