Your Uniqueness is your trademark
I can’t forget this one experience that took place couple of years back (precisely 5 years ago). It blessed me with a lesson which later grew into a Life guiding vision. I was traveling by bus and I noticed this guy who in my opinion was really handsome. I could feel him staring at me literally all through the journey (maybe he wasn’t. But for the sake of my pride, I will like to believe that he was). When we got to the final bus stop and everybody alighted from the bus, he walked up to me. “Hello”, he said. With one of my most charming smiles, I replied with a “Hi”. I didn’t anticipate the next question, I honestly didn’t see it coming. “Why is your head so big?”….
From my primary school days to my junior secondary school days, I had always been bullied over how huge my head was. We were always on low cut back then so I guess the largeness of the head couldn’t be hidden. As pure hearted as kids are, it’s sad how some derive sadistic pleasure in taunting others over certain disadvantages. I will love to excuse that as being some childish shenanigans some kids happen to grow past (some…).
I was very introverted and shy back then but was gifted with intelligence. One day after the usual assault (I always presented a strong front. Made the resolution not to ever let them see me cry so I suppose they felt their words never hurt me. But it did.), I was in my room with a sad countenance and my elder sister walked in. For some reasons, she seemed able to understand perfectly my unspoken words (I wasn’t really a verbal kid). She told me something that stuck. Those words became my perfect defense mechanism. They gave me a boldness I never taught I could exude. “BIG BRAINS NEED BIG SKULLS”, she said. “Tell them that when next they taunt you”
And those were the same words I used on my supposed “admirer”. Those words have never failed me. They always cause the same expression. The look of shock on his face left me with a broad smile on my face and a joy in my heart like no other. As I walked away, I couldn’t help but reminisce, the old me would have immediately sank into depression .
We are in a world where there is an ever increasing and gnawing need to be perfect and the honest truth is that there is nothing like “perfect”. It’s an idealistic phenomenon. A very long shot from reality. There’s a standard that has been set for everyone to meet. It’s just sad how this standard keeps changing with times. The day I made the decision to embrace my uniqueness, I got inducted into a whole new journey. The journey of self and purpose discovery. I saw come to life some potent ability and distinct qualities I had no idea could be found in me.
Nobody is perfect because there’s no such thing as perfect. We are just embracing another man perception of the word “perfect” and it’s never constant. I really don’t care what the media world choose to project. Perfection is one myth the world has tried turning into a reality. It’s more like you trying to embrace a shadow. It’s a futile effort not because you can’t but because what you want to embrace is non-existent.
To be human means to be imperfect, flawed and unique; it also means that you have that special ability that makes you ‘YOU’. It is important that we understand this and make it our belief….because it can change our lives fro the better
Embrace your uniqueness because it’s your trademark.